Need advice for my marriage

Fb1973 View Post
I have been married for almost 1 year and I am considering divorce.

Mal 2:16

I will give a chronological account of why I am considering divorce.

1. 26 days after we got married my husband asked his ex-girlfriend to send him "pictures" of herself when she said no he said well what about seeing each other in person. I did not find out about this until about 2 months later.
2. My husband's best friend prior to our marriage was a woman. I never met her until our wedding. After almost 2 months of marriage he asked if he could spend a day alone with her. I suggested that I get to know her better before they did that. This caused a constant 2 week long argument that ended in physical violence on his part. He has told me I would never be more important than her and if I couldn't handle, that I should leave. He has since stopped talking to her but it took 3 months in counseling to get him to do that.
3. At just over 4 months of marriage he hit me again over the same female. He went to jail which is what started the counseling. I did leave but after 3 months of counseling I went back.
4. Now my issue is that I can't get over all the pain he caused me emotionally and I truly want to.
Any advice would be appreciated I am truly lost on what to do. I do have an appointment with our counselor. I would just like some insight from someone who might have gone through something similar.

Take martial arts and learn to defend yourself. Do not have children. Jer. 16:2
Fb1973 View Post
Thank you already did the self defense training and own and know how to use a gun. I'm not afraid of him. My problem is getting over the emotional pain.

Your bridegroom loves you. Wait for him. Is 2:22, Jer 31:3 Today is the last day of spring (Song 2:1-17). Give him your faith.
Fb1973 View Post
We have both been married before and have adult children. We are in our 40's.

If you're both already married why are you marrying again? Rom. 7:2, 3

See:

Divorce & Remarriage: A Position Paper by John Piper
Fb1973 View Post
We have both been married and divorced. We were both left by spouses that cheated.

And you thought that that made you not married? Your marriage is not a legal one as you both already have spouses (Rom. 7:2, 3). You are both serial adulterers (Ro 6:1).

Recommend reading:

The Divorce Myth by J. Carl Laney
Ugly View Post
[If you're both already married why are you marrying again? Rom. 7:2, 3] Seems an irrelevant question.
In Sodom aka America it's irrelevant (Is 5:20). :idunno: To God it's very relevant (Heb 13:4).

Her husband committed adultery (Ex 20:14) and her solution was to defile herself? Rom. 7:2, 3 If you can't beat 'em join 'em? Is that what the bible says?
...[W]hy not offer something useful...?

We can't unscramble eggs. She's married (not the to man beating her). Ro 6:1
kaylagrl View Post
Sepentdove...likes to hear herself talk.

My view is irrelevant (Mt 16:25). God’s view is relevant (Heb 13:4). Eph 4:14
…[C]ondemns people…

Serial adultery can be forgiven (Jn 3:16).
kaylagrl View Post
... God forgives us and so we must try to forgive others.

God does not forgive you prior to your repentance (Acts 2:37, 38). You preach a false gospel (Gal. 1:6-12).

See:

"Stop Me! Before I Forgive Again..." by Bob Enyart
Fb1973 View Post
If you don't have any advice to help me then please stop offering condemnation. I don't have to justify my remarriage to you. I was not a Christian when I married and divorced the first time.

God gave marriage for the pagan, as well (Gen. 2:18–24).

My God is a just and forgiving God.

You haven't repented of your sin (Heb 13:4). :hammer:

Herodias was angered by the truth (Matt. 14:3–12) about her illegal marriage (Mark 6:17, 18), too. Try sinning more so grace can abound (Ro 6:1). Listen to the ear ticklers (Is 30:10, 2 Ti 4:3). Show up at the Great White Throne without your husband and lecture God about what marriage was (Mt 19:6).
We have been in counseling since December and it is helping.
God can't bless serial adultery (Rom. 7:2, 3).

Jesus loves you (Jn 3:16). Jesus is willing to save you (2 Pe 3:9). Repent (Eze 18:30-32; Ac 17:30). Believe (Mk 9:23).
kaylagrl View Post
Would you please zip it already...

Crucify him, crucify him (Lk 23:21). You'll give an account (Mt 12:36) for your denial of marriage (Jer. 16:2).
[Heb 13:4] Didn't deny marriage...

Pr 23:7 Ac 7:52
tourist View Post
Do you have a pertinent piece of scripture...?
You'll find what you're looking for at PlayboysRU. Eph 4:14, Heb 13:4
tourist View Post
In my opinion you are not well...

2 Ti 1:7, Eph 4:14

...and your type of mean spirited posts...

"Truth is hate to those who hate the truth." ~ Bob Enyart Jn 14:6
tourist View Post
Do you have a pertinent piece of scripture for a man that beats his wife?

Would you like to start a thread about men who beat their wives? Eph 4:14 This thread is about an adulterer/concubus beating his adulteress/concubine (Rom. 7:2, 3). He happens to call her his wife (Heb 13:4).
blue_ladybug View Post
She's living with an abusive man. She can't afford to be a meek person.

She's an unrepentant sinner (Rom. 7:2, 3) who would like us to redefine marriage (Heb 13:4).

toinena View Post
Have zero tolerance for violence and cheating.
She's committed adultery on her husband (Ex 20:14). Her concubus committed adultery on his wife (Ex 20:14). She names the name of Christ so her church must know about this (Mt 18). They: corrupt our land (Hos. 4:1–3), are excluded from God's kingdom (1 Cor. 6:9, 10) and merit God's judgment (Heb. 13:4).

blue_ladybug View Post
You are assuming that she is unrepentant...

She made a truth claim.

Fb1973 quote: I don't have to justify my remarriage to you.

She is not responsible for her behavior (Heb 13:4) after naming the name of Christ (Ex 20:7). Does her church know what sits in their sanctuary (we are the sanctuary )? Mt 18. Do others know that they lift up their prayers with this person?
tourist View Post
I believe that you are committing spiritual malpractice...

Ro 14:4, Eph 4:14 , Ps 105:15
I have nothing against you and will say a prayer for God to soften your heart for your own benefit...

Pr 15:29
blue_ladybug View Post
...You're just evil to suggest that the OP isn't good enough to say prayers with, or worship with...
You're evil to not avail yourself of Mt 18. Good thing you don't shepherd a church. The wolves would have a hay day. You're wiser than God (Is 5:20).
toinena View Post
This is not the time and place to guilt trip a person in crisis.

When is it right to defend marriage? Heb 13:4
The crisis is real and has to be dealt with with compassion…

She’s not looking for biblical council. She’s looking to justify her sin (Ro 1:32).
...[H]ere is a woman that need our prayers and support.

She and her concubus trust in the world system (2 Cor. 6:15–18).

She said she’s got a gun. She’s trained in martial arts. Her way is superior to God’s (Jn 10:10). Her only complaint was her emotions. Does she expect God to get those in order, too? Is he her leprechaun?
I pray for you, sister.

Pr 15:29

kaylagrl View Post
I Cor. 7 -But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; Seems serpent missed this verse.

Did he kick her to the curb, too? Mal 2:14
JoDel View Post
Maybe you should search the love of Christ rather than spew condemnation from hell.

She is already condemned because she has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. She prefers darkness to light because her deeds are evil (Eph 4:14, Jn 3:18-29).

“If you take part of the truth, and try to make that part of the truth, all of the truth, then that part of the truth becomes an untruth.” ~ Adrian Rogers
blue_ladybug View Post
She does believe in Jesus...

Not the Jesus of scripture. He is holy (Ps. 16:10, Is. 11:4, 5).
JoDel View Post
Well, Satan was allowed in heaven...

Satan is hated by God. Men who will not repent will be hated by God eternally, too (Mal 1:3). She's been warned (Eze 3:19). She doesn't give a damn. Now she awaits judgment (Jn 3:36).
Rachmiel View Post
I commend you for trying...

Thank you. I offered Jesus; but, his word had no place in her (Jn 8:37). All have left to offer is this stick (Is 46:7). And she thought his beatings were bad (Lk 12:47).
You need to go back and consider beloved David...
Was he a man after God's own heart because he committed adultery? Ps 32, 51
kaylagrl View Post
...It's all about serpent...
I am irrelevant. Jesus is relevant (Eph 4:14).
tourist View Post
[ Ad hominem (Eph 4:14)] I would not say that you're irrelevant because you've got great worth in the eyes of God.
Men are made in his image and likeness (Gen. 9:6).

David asked the Lord for forgiveness, "Against you, and you alone, have I sinned; I have done what is evil in your sight (Ps 51:4)." Sinning against Uriah, the Hittite (2 Sam. 11:1–27) and Bathsheba (2 Sam. 11:4, 5) was bad. Sinning against God was worse. David is in heaven today. Those who believe he's there because he's an adulterer and they can do the same and get away with it because David did are in for a rude awakening (Mt 7:23, Ga 6:7, Jud 4).

I can read a book about George Bush and think that I know him. I can read every book about George Bush. If George Bush were to walk into a room and I claimed that I know him, he would say that he didn't know me (Winfrey).

Intellectual ascension to the facts of the bible does not save. Jesus saves (Phil 3:10).
Rachmiel View Post
David was a man after God's own heart.  Was it his mercy? Was it his courage? Was it is his wisdom? Or was it his justice?
What wasn't it? Ex 20:14
MattforJesus View Post
He messed up..  He repented. 
Should adulterers repent on this side of the grave? Acts 2:37, 38. Would David today agree with God and advise anyone, "Don't do what I did." Ex 20:14

Need advice for my marriage