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On marriage: 

• Walked out on 24-year marriage

• He wanted to return to reviling as before marriage:  "I could have been going to parties and concerts."

• Said had most fun when I was away traveling out of country for work.

• Wasted "best years of his life [being married to me]." 

• "I should be farther along [financially in life at age 48] and I'm not."

• He "wanted to see if the grass was greener". 

• Said wants to be gone for "at least ten".

• "Need[ed] change".

• Put wedding ring on key ring. 

• Saw self as "divorced in [his] mind already."

• I asked if he wanted more for us.  He replied, "Not with you."

• "I have no desire to come home." 

• "I really don't like you."

• "I'm not attracted to you."

• "I hate all of your views."

• "You're like a man."

• "You thrive on chaos."

• "I can't see us getting back together."

• "You should give up."

• "...[G]et over it [infidelity had gone on four month prior to my learning of it]."

• "There is no 'us'." 

• "I'm sorry and sad [separation/divorce] but relieved as well."

• "I don't miss it [marriage] at all."

• I asked if he has desire to:  rebuild, renew, restore the marriage.  "No".

• I asked if he will make the kids me a higher priority. He said, "No."

• "I don't see anything you can offer to me."

• Said, "I f**king hate you."

• I invited him to forgive me.  "No...I'm not interested [in reconciliation]. I'm not in love. I prefer freedom."

• Wanted to be separated for "a long time". 

• Had filed for divorce in 1995 three months before my son was born.  Never told me.  Had thrown me down stairs when I was pregnant with my son.  Broke both my wrists.                                                                                                                      

• "I feel like we have been separated for 20 years. The only difference [now] is I'm not in your bed."                                                                                                                                                                                                                               

• Said had been living a "double life".

• "Divorce is more in my mind [now]."

• "It seemed like good timing because the kids would be gone soon and I did not want to be alone

  with you."

• "I'm uninterested in staying married to you right now."

• "Get a job."

• "You c**t."

• "Gold digger."

• "You loser."

• "You...wailing pig."

• "You deserve to be alone."

• "You don't deserve me."

• "Relish the pain [of divorce] you deserve."

• "My best decision was getting away from you."

• "Some things are meant to be and some aren't."

• Most men say:  "It's not you.  It's me."  He said:  "It's not me.  It's you."

• Pastor asked him if he would work on restoring oneness.  Answers, "no".

• Pastor asked him if he will pursue his wife again?  Answers, "That's not where I am now."

• His phone had dialed me when he was on a road trip with the adulteress.  He told me that I was hearing his conversation with a female gas station attendant.  We had purchased and restored an RV earlier in that summer.  I had said that I was looking forward to some one on one time together.  He replied:  "I would never take a road trip with you."  

• I looked at his phone to view text messages, he grabbed it back from me.

• After finding lust notes in trailer, I visited address on note (adulteress' mother's house).  I had found out that we were getting divorced by speaking with her. 

• I asked him why did she say that?  He said:  "I may have told her [adulteress], 'I'm divorcing that bitch.'"

• I told him I would like to speak with the home-wrecker.  He replied, "She'd only speak with you to tell you what a bitch you are," and "Leave her alone you fucking bitch."

• Asked us to move to our rental home so that he could live in our home. "It would be right."

• "...[Y]ou should not be in the house. I will be asking [the court for] you to be moved out at our hearing unless you agree to let me maintain our asset."

• "I never agreed to abandon my assets..."

• "Go [back] to NY." I lived in New York the first five years of our marriage.  He said, "I had the best of both world.  I was married but never had to actually see you."

• Said our marriage was invalid because it was a Catholic ceremony and laughed.

On sexual integrity:

• I told him he had a problem with sexual imagery (e.g. leering at other women).  Said "you're insecure".

• Visited bars where scantily clad, unchaste women are advertised as servers (e.g. Hooters type place). 

• Tans and works out now.

• Bought new Corvette, new truck.

• Loses a lot of weight all at once.

• Said his sexual life is "none of [my] business". 

• "How I feel [regarding infidelity] is no longer any of your business." 

• I said God made us to be one, he replied:  "We are no longer one.  Please understand I am separate."

• Speaking with friend in bar said regarding his experience at a concert:  "It's easy to dance especially with chicks all around rubbing you and all."

• Referring to a woman at a bar:  "She was so hot...dude, I could go for that...She's sick...She's got very feminine characteristics.  She's Irish...fine skin and shit..."

• Prior to my learning of infidelity (had been going on for some time) I said, "I need to be able to trust you again."  He replied, "You can't trust me.  In three months I could be screwing another chick."

• "I'm never going to be your Bob Enyart guy [pastor]."

• "I don't like John MacArthur [pastor] anymore."

• I said, "The bible says it's not good for man to be alone."  He replied, "Trust me.  I won't be alone."

• I said, "If it feels good do it--everyone else be damned, right?"  He replied, "No, just you."

• Told my sister, "It's like jumping off a cliff.  When you do it, there's no going back".

• Could not look me in the eyes. 

• Would no longer accept phone calls, texts only.

• Said, "You'd never forgive me anyway."

• "It seems you never forget anything like the bachelor party [my marriage began and ended with a lap dance]."

• Was upset for being caught, not for what he'd done. I asked, are you repentant?  Do you have regret or remorse for what you have done?  He replied, "I am not repentant.  I don't have regret or remorse.  It [infidelity] got me away from you." 

• I write: The man who commits adultery with another man’s wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress, shall surely be put to death (Le 20:10).  He replied: "I'm not with someone's wife."

• I told him he needed to ask for our forgiveness one day.  He replied, "You know what I'm sorry for our marriage being over and I apologize for my part in it. I never wanted this to happen".  Returned to the adulteress again the same evening. 

• Told my mother he almost made a firmer commitment to adulteress woman to prove that he is "so over [me]."

Promise her anything;but, give her Arpge

On Christianity:

• I had invited him to church with us.  He replied, "No f**king way."

• "I'm finished with those bible verses and shit."

• "I don't believe the bible--not all of it."

• Called Christians "crap".

• Called scripture "crap".

• "I don't believe the bible like you."

• "I don't want to hear that bible shit."

• "I'm a heart (love and mercy of God). You're a liver (filter out poison in the body). That wasn't a compliment." 1 Co 12:12

• Called my quoting scripture "abusive," "hateful" and "unforgivable".

• "You can read it [scripture in] many ways."

• "It seems like we've had a Satanic attack on our marriage."

• "I'm lost thanks to you....[I] hate you."

• "I gave up."

• "You don't tell me anything from your heart. You're a walking bible dictionary."

• Enjoyed me "before [I] became a nun...for the last 10 years.  You [also] dress and have about as much fun as one."

• "I am a Christian just not a good one."

• "I'm a carnal Christian."

• I had asked if we could we spend more time with believers?  Answered, "I don't want that crap."

• I told him that God says he hates divorce. He replied, "God knows what I want."

• "God said I should f**king divorce you!"

• "I will do what I think is best."

• "Half of Christians get divorced."

• I asked if in all these years of marriage had he ever prayed for me.  He answered, "No."

• I warned him that he's building his house on sand.  He replied, "Jesus will forgive my sin as far as the east is from the west."

• I encouraged him not to associate with the sexual immorality, the greedy, idolaters, revilers, drunkards, swindlers.  He replied, "We are all of these things[.] [T]hank goodness for Jesus. Eh?"

• "I want to be legally separated and let you take your religion with you."

• Tells police "She got involved with some religion a few years ago and it has taken control of her."

[He asked me to be represented by a lawyer of his choice]  ".... I will go see the lawyer just to see how things would be so we have an idea of what you would get and how long and that kind of thing just so we know. Mark...got divorced and recommended her. Not because she is mean but because she is very common sense like Roy. She did his for $1500.00 and quickly. His wife was cooperative and it worked out for both of them. If we get separated, I would like us to work it out this way. If we can, we may have future hope. If we get crazy lawyers who try to wreck me and my businesses and try to bury me then I know I will never be able to even look at you again. If you truly love me, this is the only way we will have a chance in the future....She will walk you through the process and do it for us with out any extra lawyers."

[Asked me to take down my website] "The Lord can only reach me if you back off. The website, the locks [changing at our residence]--everything. I'm not toying with you but you are doing exactly what guaranties a divorce."

[He had said he would not file for divorce if I took my blog down. I did and he filed anyway.] "The whole point of our previous texts [suggested that reconciliation was possible, withheld truth about his infidelity] were to give me control [of my website]."

[Told me to take site down because all his family members are all Catholics and they disagree with me about theology.] "I can't stand you even use my name."

"If you do not take it down immediately[,] I will prosecute according to the law."  

Tells police after breaking into my home that I am dangerous because I have conceal carry permit and am trained in martial arts. 

His lawyer suggests that I am mentally deficient:  "There may be some mental issues here [judge]..."  2 Oct 14

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Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge